By Frank Deford
April 20, 2011

Recently we seem to have had some especially spectacular and even tragic defeats. But, of course, in sport we don't devote much extended contemplation to those who lose -- unless, of course, they should come back and win.

This leads to the bromide which has been repeated so often that it is now accepted as a verity: You learn more from losing than winning. I suspect that the axiom has purchased so much currency because when some individual does indeed ascend to victory after a defeat, it's fashionable to attribute that success to the character born of his failure. That offers hope to all us losers.

I hate to be unsentimental and un-American, but after watching an awful lot of athletes win and lose over the years, I'm inclined to believe that you learn more by winning.

What wisdom did Rory McIIroy really gain by choking in the final round of the Masters? Will another golfer, Kevin Na, find his essence ultimately improved by shooting a 16 on a par-4 hole last week? Did the poor Butler basketball team learn more from being embarrassed in this year's NCAA final or was it more painful the year before falling, gallantly, by but a basket?

Or isn't it possible that the greatest nobility really does lie with those who win? Unfortunately, this is too often explained by another dreadful cliché, that the winner wanted it more. I think that's usually bad psychology and bad journalism.

Andy Murray, the Scottish tennis player, has made three Grand Slam finals and, in them, lost nine straight sets. Does his desire have as much to do with getting to the finals as then collapsing in them?

Murray was in the news the other day because in a tournament in Monte Carlo, his opponent, Gilles Simon twisted an ankle but kept on playing. When Murray proceeded to use drop shots, the patrons booed him for making his handicapped opponent run more.

I'm sorry, but I find Simon more histrionic than sympathetic. While playing hurt is likewise trotted out as a sign of heroism, and, yes, occasionally the wounded warrior does prevail, it's not so often as we want to believe.

The most famously succinct epigram on the subject is a couplet from If, by Rudyard Kipling:

If you can meet with Triumph and DisasterAnd treat these two impostors just the same ...

It's fashionable to quote this sentiment, especially since it appears above the players' entrance to Centre Court at Wimbledon. But I always thought it was terribly precious to suggest that triumph and disaster, victory and defeat, can somehow be confused.

And fine as it may be to maintain your equilibrium, should you treat winning and losing the same, I doubt that any lesson is learned well.

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