Ask The Coach Guidance for those lost in sports

September 24, 2000

Dear Coach: My son plays sixth-grade football and seems to lack
heart. He is always the last one to the play. I've told him I
don't expect him to be a superstar, but I do expect 100% effort.
He says he likes football, and any mention of quitting upsets
him. Should I accept it or ride him harder?
LAZY BOY

Dear Lazy: Since he's enjoying himself, your son isn't in it for
the stats. Says Ronald Kamm, VP of the International Society for
Sport Psychiatry, "He's getting something else from it. Maybe
it's the camaraderie, or the status of being on the team. In any
case, take the pressure off." Also, let his coach do the
talking. When his attitude is broached as a team matter, it's
more likely to make an impact. "If he comes to you, tell him
aggressiveness is a big part of the game," says Kamm. "But you
have to let him perceive that for himself."

Dear Coach: I'm a 15-year-old girl who loves basketball, but I'm
only 5'7" and I was cut from my high school's freshman team. I
don't have great ability, but if I don't make the jayvee next
year, I'll feel like all the hours I put in practicing will have
been for nothing. What can I do?
GOT NO GAME

Dear Game: Be persistent, but be realistic. "Concentrate on
skill development," says child psychologist Darrell Burnett.
"Focus on passing and dribbling. And if you don't make the team,
it's not the end of the world. Play recreationally and see the
beauty of the sport." There's no shame in missing the cut. Says
Kamm, "Applaud the journey, not the destination. Your commitment
already says a lot about your character."

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