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Elena Della Donne treasures unique relationship with older sister


Imagine being not only the best high school player in the country -- probably the world -- and signing to play for the best college program in the country, but then walking away from the sport. Why would any kid do that?

But Elena Delle Donne did exactly that, because she simply did not want to be away from her older sister ... for as much as Elena has been blessed with the greatest of gifts in this mortal world, Lizzie Delle Donne was, in horrible contrast, denied most of the physical joys of life. She was born both without sight and hearing, and with cerebral palsy. She only knows her kid sister by the special way she touches her, by her hugs and kisses, and by her scent. Lizzie is twenty-seven now, and she will never overcome what fate so cruelly gave her.

And yet, four years ago, when Elena went off to the University of Connecticut as the prized women's basketball recruit in the country, she was only there two days when she realized that regardless of how good she was, and notwithstanding how many championships she would win at UConn -- no, never mind what glory she found in the game she dominated, it would mean nothing if she could not be there to give her sister what love Lizzie could understand.

And so Elena went back home to Delaware. She enrolled at the state university, nearby in Newark, and she did not even play basketball for a year. Now as a junior, she is the best college player in the country; she is the leading scorer in the nation, and Delaware, a mid-major school, has lost only one game all year -- on the road to ninth-ranked Maryland. The Blue Hens themselves are now ranked 12th.

Elena is six-feet-five, but she can play like a guard. In high school she made eighty free throws in a row. As the star this past summer, on the U.S. team that won the gold medal in China at the World University Games, she not only led the American team in total scoring and rebounds, but also in three-point baskets.

Elena's college recruitment was very intense because of how good she is -- so much so that it all but ended her passion for the game -- as likewise it crystallized, in her mind, how important something else was.

The only story that remotely resembles Elena's is Larry Bird's -- he who went to Indiana University, left as a freshman, went home, and, famously, worked on a garbage truck, before returning to a smaller college to lead the mid-major Indiana State to the national final. But Bird was not that well known as a prospect, and he left Bobby Knight's team because he was homesick and uncomfortable on a big campus. Elena still remembers Geno Auriemma, the UConn coach, and the players who would've been her teammates, fondly.

But for Elena, you see, it was not a matter of leaving anywhere. No, it was only a matter of wanting to be somewhere, with someone where she thought she was more valuable, where she mattered more in life and love.